There has been this anticipation of change and loss as the build up occurs over the summer.  This disruption of daily life as you knew it, is happening.  Do not be surprised at the emotional volatility.  This is a big developmental hurdle.  It will be hard to say good bye…  This change has been waiting to happen for almost 2 decades.

Rest assured that there is still a lot of parenting left to do.  I often equate it to a football game.  You are only at the 50 yard line.  This time in your students life is when the ball gets taken down the field and across the finish line.  The “Parenting Years” have been extended.  Studies show that it can take 5 to 10 years for a young adult to make a complete shift to being fully independent.  These emerging adults still need support and guidance from their parents.

So, picture yourself as the coach and mentor but allow your student to carry the ball.  It is their game.  Sometimes you may be the coach or the cheer leader but you will always the newscaster announcing their accomplishments.  Enjoy this time.  It can be as much fun for you as it is your student.