Half of all new college
students won't graduate. What can you do to
improve your odds?
About 50% of all kids that go to college will
With that high failure rate it is important
to understand what success factors could give
your child that margin of success.
Surprisingly relationships in college are the
key to your success.
For most the thought of romantic relationships
jumps to mind, and that is part of it, but I'm
talking about all the relationships that help
your student become a better student.
A Higher Level Relationship
Your college student must learn to go to a
higher level of relationships with their professors,
career counselors, academic advisors, dorm supervisors,
peers as well as their romantic life.
These people are your resource team who has
a piece of the puzzle to make your college experience
a success. But if you don't get connected in
a way that is effective, you won't get the benefit
your “team” has to offer.
Talk Too Much?
One mistake I see new students make is talking
too much about themselves. I know...sounds stupid...but
it never ceases to amaze me at how much “blah,
blah, blah” students will tell total strangers.
Many tearful hours have been spent in my office
with students who come to realized that they
are much more deeply involved than they would
like to be.
My advice: Think of your new relationships
like a small plant, one that will grow over
time. You water it a little each day...not all
Slow Motion Romance
I also think that it is also important to
“go slow” with romantic relationships. I believe
the best relationships, start off as friendships.
I highly recommend that kids start off just
making good friends, and then letting the relationship
go to a romantic level at a slower pace.
Students end up in my office because they let
that romantic relationship go too fast.
Again, a big warning is mixing alcohol and
drugs with relationships, because a lot of time
there is regrets (or even a pregnancy) the morning
after or when the party is over, or when that
person has sobered up.
For more insights into your hidden
college resource team, order
Dr. Debi Yohn's book "Parenting
College Students: 27 Winning Strategies for
Success." It can help you and your
college student have the best chance a successful
college experience. You can also speak to Dr.
Yohn privately and confidentially through her
here for more information.